An Interview with Laurel Zien, Chesed Committee Co-Chair

Posted by on Dec 26, 2016 in Chesed | No Comments

by Bill Lazarus

Laurel Zien, co-chair with Hedy Straus of Kehilla’s Chesed (Lovingkindness Committee), remembers her mom’s generous spirit. “If Ditty was wearing a coat and you said something like I like that a lot, she’d say, ‘Here, take it.’ Anything in her closet you were welcome to have.”

About seven years ago, after her husband died, Ditty moved from Florida to the East Bay, bringing, at her daughter’s encouragement, two wheelchairs and other equipment she needed to deal with the frailty of old age.

Two years later, Laurel was diagnosed with a form of neuroendocrine cancer. Though it famously felled Steve Jobs, this cancer is extremely rare and difficult to diagnose. For Laurel, diagnosis led to surgery, and a resolution of serious symptoms she had for many years.

Closet in a garage

Recovery required more equipment for the short term. “It occurred to me you don’t throw this stuff away,” says Laurel. “It’s expensive to rent or buy. You can’t afford to just let it go. You don’t know who will need it.”

Thus began Ditty’s Closet, which is located in the garages and homes of nearly twenty Kehilla members. The contents of the virtual closet are coordinated by Laurel and are available for loan to all Kehilla members, many of whom have made use of the equipment.  Ditty’s Closet currently holds over 80 items of durable medical equipment owned by members including: shower benches, commodes, wheelchairs, knee scooters, and walkers — several items of which are now in circulation.

One congregant wanted to offer an ice machine which features hoses and wraps around the shoulder, providing physical therapy. But, expecting to need it again and aware of its significant cost, she initially was hesitant. “I suggested she interview the person who wants it and see if you are comfortable lending it,” Laurel recalls. She was, and the loan worked out. Now Ditty’s Closet hosts two ice machines. “I don’t even get that request anymore,” Laurel adds. “They go from person to person without the need for an intermediary.” 

Asking questions, taking action

With an open mind and heart, Laurel (whose last name, Zien, is pronounced Zion) spurs community, connection and acts of loving kindness. While her life’s work has taken sharp turns — traversing the worlds of theater, real estate, and gerontology — her approach is fundamentally consistent. She stays alert to possibilities, and finds opportunity in challenge. Her method is to search for the right questions. Then she develops practical ways to implement the answers. When all seems dark, she finds cracks that let in light.

Kehilla’s Chesed Committee enables congregants to both give and receive good works. Recipients of help often help others when they are able, and givers know where they can turn when they are in need. The list of needs and opportunities is limitless, Laurel says, adding, “You can shop, make a meal, babysit, do laundry, come over and be company, help negotiate insurance, run an errand, pick up medicine. There are so many things.”

The work of the Chesed Committee is one of coordination. “We don’t necessarily do it. We can’t make it all happen ourselves,” Laurel says. “Our goal is getting as many people as possible figuring out what help or services they can offer.”

Over the course of five decades and three careers, Laurel has served as executive director or board member of a variety of non-profit organizations. In college she was a theater major. She went on to theater administration, producing dance, jazz, and concerts across the Bay Area. For years she was general manager of San Francisco’s Palace of Fine Arts, hosting events ranging from the Ford-Carter presidential debates to the comedian Lily Tomlin and Bill Graham’s music productions. She served for several years as associate producer at the Berkeley Rep. 

A richly varied life

Laurel eventually switched gears, moving into commercial real estate appraisal, inspired by a former college roommate’s enthusiasm for the field. She carved out specialties in theater arts palaces, sound studios and movie theaters, as well as in churches, synagogues and affordable housing. The latter involved visiting hundreds of people’s apartments every year. She explained to renters, she represented the bank loaning money on the property, and said, “My job is to see if something is wrong with your space. If it is, I’m going to make a noise about it, and it’s going to be fixed.”

Finding a permanent home

Laurel was with Kehilla from its beginning and remembers its first High Holiday service at the Friends Church in Berkeley in 1984. Kehilla later found a semi-permanent home at the Northbrae Community Church in Berkeley.

Part of Kehilla’s dynamic quality, and a large measure of its own identity, was in not having a building of its own. “There was tremendous resistance to having a building. The whole idea was that we were a synagogue without walls.” Laurel says. But there were drawbacks. The Northbrae Church, for instance, liked the clean look of its walls. While on the Board, Laurel was moved by a Kehilla teacher’s concern that the kids had no place to put up their artwork or hang out.

Laurel joined a committee to explore what owning a building would mean. Discussions and looking at buildings went on for years. A consultant was hired to determine what members wanted and if a purchase was financially feasible. Then as now, Kehilla viewed mending of the world as being central to its mission. Plans to have a building developed “with the understanding tikkun olam was always first and the building always second.”

Although the funding base within Kehilla was sound, Laurel said, “I was appraising churches. I knew the values in the area. It was daunting.” Laurel’s husband David, also a real estate appraiser, and several of the building committee members were professionally involved in real estate. Among them, Hal Feiger heard that the church at 1300 Grand Ave. had just come on the market and summoned the sub-group for an immediate walk-through. That was when the Eureka! moment hit. Sure, some of the classrooms weren’t ideal, but the building was affordable. From her years in the theater, Laurel had an ear for acoustics and a sense of space. She knew upon walking into the sanctuary that “this is it”  — a place “where we could come together in celebration and in pain.”  Keenly aware that the opportunity to buy could soon vanish, Hal moved to secure the building for Kehilla.

Ironically, while Laurel and David were important players in Kehilla’s finding of a permanent home, its distance from their own home in Richmond makes their going to shul relatively infrequent. Still, Laurel remained, and remains, a Kehilla spark-plug.

Acts of loving kindness

Dealing with aging parents and having to tend to her own mysterious illness set Laurel on a new course. She earned a degree in gerontology in 2005, and started working as an elder care coach and patient advocate. She wrote a book on medication management and safety, and spoke on these and related topics from a caregiver’s point of view. She led workshops across the Bay Area, teaching “everything I knew about being an adult child and caregiving.”

Laurel brought that background to the Chesed Committee, and launched Ditty’s Closet and other projects of loving kindness and community building. The work of the committee is confidential. Yet, Laurel sees both the giving and receipt of loving kindness as vital to community and its spiritual well-being. “It’s a mitzvah to receive as much as to give,” she says, noting that the givers feel good about doing good and the receivers make that possible, along with strengthening Kehilla’s community.

About ten Kehilla members currently serve on the  Chesed Committee. “Part of what we try to do is help people be clear about the kind of help they need,” Laurel says. That many of the committee members are in counseling professions is useful in this exploration. Laurel’s co-chair, Hedy, is a retired hospice nurse.

Still Laurel adds, “We don’t do all the tasks ourselves. As coordinators of Chesed, our job is to be empowering — to get people what they need when they need it, to problem solve for specific issues.”

“The committee is a skilled, compassionate group of people,” Laurel adds. “We’re always trying to figure out ways of serving the community, of holes that need to be filled.”

One of those holes is the need for a condolence meal immediately following a local funeral. The meal of condolence, Laurel says, “is a completely different thing from a shiva. It’s coming back from the cemetery when everything is raw, so terribly raw.”

To encourage interest in performing acts of loving kindness, the Chesed Committee also coordinates the annual fall Kehilla neighborhood brunches.  “We felt that people would be more likely to help their neighbors if they already knew them,” Laurel said. “It’s all about building community.”

 

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